Over the past few months, I’ve noticed a troubling trend: more and more comments from women openly expressing hatred towards men—wishing for our suffering, at times even our death.
I reported a comment telling a man to dxe on Instagram and it was NOT removed because it didn’t go against community standards. What?! Whenever a man shares his struggles, the response is often, “What about us?”—as if male pain can’t exist without being overshadowed or dismissed.
These posts aren’t about comparison; they’re a cry for help. But they’re met with deflection. – Nor is this post shared in anger or hating on women. I’m trying to understand how this is accepted culturally and want an honest answer from our counterparts.
I recently spent time browsing Psychology Today, and out of hundreds of therapy groups and practitioners, the vast majority cater only to women. I found a few groups dedicated to men. Support for women is everywhere, and that’s important—but where are the spaces for men to process trauma, grief, and pain without judgment?
There’s also a double standard when it comes to abuse. If a man is emotionally, verbally, or even physically harmed by a woman, it’s often laughed off or ignored—sometimes even celebrated. But pain is pain, no matter who carries it. My favorite is also being able to objectify men and go after their wealth. Are you serious? Do As I Say, Not As I do.
I posted in a cPTSD group last night about my wife hitting me across the face yesterday morning. No reason. I just woke up. She’s been violent towards me in subtle ways. (Using more force than what would be an accidental swipe and being able to get away with it). I was asked, “Are you sure you didn’t misunderstand her intention to hug you?” Yeah, because I had a swollen eye for a day.
Honestly, if you think anything along those lines – you most certainly have blood on your hands. I can’t help but think this is part of why so many men are choosing to end their lives. Our culture is failing men, and instead of offering compassion, the audience is cheering. That should scare all of us.
I know of many noble women and those few do stand up for men but it does seem like we’re on a downward trend. That’s okay. I know I deserve a short life – maybe I’ll have a clap on the way down.As stated before, I’m curious as to how any of this is acceptable behavior.